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When we are going to do something we have done before, we know what we don't know. 

We know where and why delays are likely to occur and we usually know what to do if something goes wrong. We can plan the steps ahead. In this world, clarity and process optimization is good.

Wicked or complex problems on the other hand are different. There is no one right answer. There are no agreement on what the problem really is. 

You face many stakeholders with conflicting objectives. No solutions are right or wrong. You can make the outcome better or worse, but you are never done. Forcing clarity in this world will inevitably hinder innovation.

Getting married is not complex, but having a happy marriage is. There is a manual for getting married. But there is no "best practice" for a happy marriage. It's the sum of many small parts which makes it difficult to make a detailed plan. You cannot copy someone else's work and expect the same results because no two complex problems are alike.

All the analysis, plans and methodologies used to build a car are useless if your problem is car traffic. A car slowing down will cause ripple effects in the traffic difficult to predict. The issue with traffic is not the cars, the buses, the bicycles, or the pedestrians. It is in the relationship between them.

Building the Titanic out of LEGO bricks is not complex. You can simply follow the instructions. The whole equals the sum of the parts.

What about development of digital products that you haven't built before, either at all or in your context?

Market conditions change. Technology is changing. People's behavior change. We don't quite know how we are going to do it. We don't know what people want. You don't know what you don't know until you do something and get feedback. That's when the actual development starts.

Leading in complexity calls for something other than plans and best practices. Sense what's happening. Get some data. Take small actions based on the data and see what happens. Learn from it. Do more of what works, and less of what don't. Find the small changes that have a large positive effect.

Easier said then done. We are humans and we fear uncertainty. When we face uncertainty, we often manufacture excuses for not getting started. We don't start walking until we find an approach that's guaranteed to work.

It's hard to say to your stakeholders that you don't know exactly if it will be a success, when it will be finished and what it will cost.

What we can do is to deliver something early and often and let people try it and give feedback. 

We can also share what we believe (our hypothesis), what we will do to verify it, how we will measure it, what we observed, what we learned from it and what we will do next based on that.

In complexity, how do you measure success? You get what you measure you know ...

• How did we achieve our results? 
• How ambitious were the targets? 
• Was there a headwind or tailwind? 
• Which risks were taken? 
• How sustainable are the results? 

These evaluation questions require more effort than comparing two numbers.

Hitting a target does not necessarily mean that this was the best performance possible because it assumes that the "right" target was set.

Beyond Budgeting is a journey where the direction is clearer than the destination, if there is one.

Changing what we do helps little unless we also change how we think. That is the hardest part.

"This is Beyond Budgeting" by Bjarte Bogsnes

What advice do you wish you had when you pursued your first leadership role?

Steffan, you will now go from the guy making recommendations to the guy making decisions. You go from being an individual contributor to delivering through others. You now lead a team of people doing what you used to be good at, that got you promoted in the first place.

That's a big change. How to make good decisions, facilitate a meeting, craft a strategy or delegate work is not something that everyone naturally just know how to do. If you think they are natural abilities, then you might feel there's something wrong with you if you don't have them. Please don't. It's a skill you can learn. You will do mistakes, but over time you will nail it. Leadership is an education.

People is your work now. Invest time in them, be present, be available. Listen. Ask how you can help all the time. Then comes communication, communication, communication, setting budgets, performance reviews, 1:1 meetings, meetings with stakeholders, recruitment, setting goals, prioritize, help finding solutions on complex problems, solving conflicts.

Don't forget to take care of yourself. What gives you energy? What drains you for energy? What do you need to do yourself, and what can you delegate to others? Do one thing at a time. Use your team. Create a support system around you, and use it. Block time in your calendar to think and reflect.

Never create a bunch of tasks that you assign to your team for execution. Provide context, intent. Let your brilliant team and problem solvers define and own their tasks and actions. A good plan developed and understood by the team is better than a "brilliant" plan by you.

Don't stress if you don't have a vision on the first day. You are not Steve Jobs. Visions can be found. Find it together with your team and let it be the compass in everything you do. What would you like to achieve together? What's the future we are trying to create? How do we plan to accomplish that? Let it become theirs, not only yours.

Watch out for compromises in this process. If you try to come up with something that pleases everyone, you end up pleasing no one.

Steffan, you are not a super human and don't pretend to be one. You have your strengths, but also your weaknesses and gaps. Your job is to build a team and surround yourself with people closing those gaps. Your job is not to know everything.

There will be periods where you doubt yourself and question everything, but suddenly you will see someone on your team achieve more than they thought they were capable of.

You will see your team come together to solve impossible problems. You will see a team that would do anything to help each other out. Impact. That's the joy of leadership. That's your reward. That's the reason why you became a leader.

Good luck my friend!

Best Regards,

Steffan Sørenes, a year older and (somewhat) wiser

There is still a place for your advice and answer as a leader, you should just try to slow down the rush to it as your default behavior.

A little more asking people questions and a little less telling people what to do. Here are the seven magic questions to ask.

What's on your mind?

An open question that invites people to get to the heart of the matter and share what's most important to them.

And what else?

A question that creates more wisdom, more insights, and more options because the first answer someone gives you is almost always never the only answer, and it's rarely the best answer. When someone says "there is nothing else" you have succeeded.

What's the real challenge here for you?

It's time to focus. When people start talking to you about the challenge at hand, what they are laying out for you is rarely the actual problem. The "for you" pins the question to the person you are talking to.

What do you want?

This one is difficult to answer. We often don't know what we actually want. The illusion that both parties to the conversation know what the other party wants is pervasive, and it sets the stage for plenty of frustrating exchanges.

How can I help?

This question is forcing your colleague to make a direct and clear request. That may be useful because she might not be sure why she started this conversation with you. 

Second, this question stops you from rushing into "rescuer" mode where you offer advice or start to take over responsibilities.

If you are saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?

This question is more complex than it sounds, which accounts for its potential. It puts the spotlight on how to create the space and focus, energy and resources that you'll need to truly do that 'Yes'. 

It's all too easy to shove another 'Yes' into the bag of our overcommitted lives.

What was most useful for you? / What did you find most valuable about this chat?

This one gives you feedback, it will give you guidance on what to do more of next time. It gives your colleague a chance to recall and reflect on key takeaways from the conversation. That's when we start learning.

Drop the "Why?" questions

In a coaching conversation, don't ask the 'Why' questions. You put them on the defensive. Rather than "Why did you do that?", try "What where you hoping for there?" or "What made you choose this course of action?".

And by the way, don't forget to ask the questions with genuine interest and curiosity and acknowledge the answers.

"The Coaching Habit" by Michael Bungay Stanier.

So what do you find in a great story?

• Identifiable characters. Someone we care about and connect to.

• Authentic emotion. Felt by the identifiable character. It is through that emotion that the receiver experiences empathy with the story. This is essential to make it more relatable, compelling, and sticky.

• A significant moment. A specific point in space, time or circumstance that sets the story aside from the rest. Instead of going big and broad, we need to go small and detailed. Don't stay too vague, too high level, too broad and too general.

• Specific details. Involve use of specific, descriptive, sometimes unexpected details and imagery that are relevant to the intended audience in an effort to create and draw the listeners into a world that sounds familiar to their own. The finer the detail, the better. This is how you tell the audience that you know them.

Why don't we tell more stories? The biggest barrier to not telling your story is assuming you don't have a story in the first place.

It isn't a lack of stories that keeps you from being able to find yours but rather the ineffective questions we use to get them. Getting better stories requires asking better questions. 

Our stories attach themselves to the nouns in our lives. The people, the places, the things, the events. A memory can be turned into a story.

Pick a story that fits your needs, your business and your audience. 

You are not telling a story for the story's sake. Who are you telling this story to? What do you want them to think, feel, know or do?

Start with a story next time! It eases the natural tension that sometimes exists between audience and speaker. Starting with a story helps to break down barriers and makes you a person just like them instead of the expert in front of the room they are forced to listen to.

"Stories that Stick" by Kindra Hall